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by: basho fat sumo-2011  
  
 

 
 
 
 
 
Family Message - April 2011

SPRING CLEANING....

Spring is the time when many people deep clean their homes, unload unwanted junk, pull out the lawn furniture and spruce up the landscaping. It's also a great time to do a spring-cleaning of our spirit, especially pulling the weeds of un-forgiveness.

I'm often amazed at the kind of garbage we humans choose to willingly drag around with us in the form of grudges, painful memories, and other types of mental and spiritual debris from the past that we refuse to release. I for one, my bad past experience still lingers around, it sure bugged my wife - Connie and recently, she has made me understand the cycle of events where in a case scenario; there is the perpetrator, the victim and the rescuer. She made me realized that I played all three roles in such case.

But we won't forgive the ex-spouse who treated us shabbily. We refuse to let go of the slights and unfairness of a situation at work, church or some other group we're a part of. We continue to beat ourselves up for past mistakes, because we want to play the victim and participant at the same time.

The costs of our unwillingness to let go are huge. On a metaphysical level what we focus on tends to expand. So if you have something from the past that you've refused to let go of, you've probably recreated a similar experience for yourself if you've focused on it intently. When you continue to "lick the wound" you bring more misery upon yourself, hence; you’re still a victim of the perpetrator.

On a more rational level, why let someone from your past continue to hurt you and potentially rob you of an extraordinary present and future? Remember, that which you hold onto (your hurt, resentment, grudge, unforgiveness, pain) is actually holding onto you...keeping you stuck. From a health standpoint, there’s enough studies to fill volumes about your health risks of ulcers, heart problems, eating disorders and I am sure more of virtual physical ailment that has the potential of being rooted in not letting it go the hatred you have been holding back, hence; you are still acting as a rescuer.

So let us do a thorough inventory of our ability of letting it go “spirit”, forgive but you do not forget. Much like you go through your closet at the beginning of a new season, weed out that which no longer fit, give them away or donate them. In a dramatic scenario, do away with the role of a perpetrator, be a forgiving victim and a standout rescuer.

 

 

 


 

 

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NEW DESTINATIONS- PICTURES

Family faces are magic mirrors. Looking at people who belong to us, we see the past, present and future. We make discoveries about ourselves. The bond that links our true family is not only of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life. Family is essential because we all yearn to feel like we belong to something greater than ourselves. Call it a "clan", call it a "network", call it a "tribe", and call it a "family".

Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one our most basic instinct is not for survival but for family. Most of us would give our own life for the survival of a family member, yet we lead our daily life too often as if we take our family for granted in the end, life teaches us what is important, and that is family. Like branches on a tree, our lives may grow in different directions yet our roots remain as one. Life affords no greater responsibility, no greater privilege, than the raising of the next generation in the end, life teaches us what is important, and that is family. 

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Only truth is enduring…
The delusion of superiority enjoyed by the super-rich is reinforced by the masses that pay homage to them. Even clergy who speak out against the worship of money often defer and bend over backwards to please the wealthy in their respective communities and relies on “Bingo” for charity reasons.

A rich man commands respect and attention wherever he goes. People point him out when he walks into a room. His counsel is sought on various matters, much of which he often knows little about.

Everyone wants to be associated with success and, more often than not, the barometer of success is the size of one's bank account. Usually it matters not a whit how the money was made. With very few exceptions, this is the way of the world. It's common today for honesty to be confused -- indeed, synonymous -- with naïveté. One who declines participating in money-making schemes for ethical reasons or refuses benefits he may not be entitled to, is scorned as a fool or too "morally straight".

The hardworking electrician or craftsman who sweats from early in the morning to late at night, never overcharging and remaining fastidious about paying his taxes, may not earn anyone's admiration. It's the one who cuts corners, gives dishonest answers on government forms, overcharges and plays fast and loose with the rules that often seems to be more respected for the resulting windfall of his "accomplishments" and "skills". An honest middle class man who pays his tuition and is punctilious in the giving of charity to the less fortunate isn't respected enough for his integrity and reliability. The same goes for the kindhearted fellow who doesn't push his weight around trying to dictate what others should do.

We have in our midst people of sterling character, individuals who are intelligent, capable and resourceful, who can envision solutions and follow through on a project to completion. These people realize that all their talents and possessions are gifts from the Divine. They remain humble and God fearing and loving. It's precisely this kind of person we need in positions of leadership. But sadly, we don't appreciate these people. We seek folks who radiate glitz and glamour. Awed by their material success, we invest our trust, imagining that they possess the brilliance and competence to lead us to success but rather they take advantage of you.

Frauds and lies will only get you so far. Eventually, the treachery will catch up with you. Together with your wealth, all those adoring friends who couldn't do enough for you will disappear. Everything temporary comes to a crashing end. Only truth is enduring.

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