SPRING CLEANING....
Spring is the time when many people deep clean their homes, unload unwanted junk, pull out the lawn furniture and spruce up the landscaping. It's also a great time to do a spring-cleaning of our spirit, especially pulling the weeds of un-forgiveness.
I'm often amazed at the kind of garbage we humans choose to willingly drag around with us in the form of grudges, painful memories, and other types of mental and spiritual debris from the past that we refuse to release. I for one, my bad past experience still lingers around, it sure bugged my wife - Connie and recently, she has made me understand the cycle of events where in a case scenario; there is the perpetrator, the victim and the rescuer. She made me realized that I played all three roles in such case.
But we won't forgive the ex-spouse who treated us shabbily. We refuse to let go of the slights and unfairness of a situation at work, church or some other group we're a part of. We continue to beat ourselves up for past mistakes, because we want to play the victim and participant at the same time.
The costs of our unwillingness to let go are huge. On a metaphysical level what we focus on tends to expand. So if you have something from the past that you've refused to let go of, you've probably recreated a similar experience for yourself if you've focused on it intently. When you continue to "lick the wound" you bring more misery upon yourself, hence; you’re still a victim of the perpetrator.
On a more rational level, why let someone from your past continue to hurt you and potentially rob you of an extraordinary present and future? Remember, that which you hold onto (your hurt, resentment, grudge, unforgiveness, pain) is actually holding onto you...keeping you stuck. From a health standpoint, there’s enough studies to fill volumes about your health risks of ulcers, heart problems, eating disorders and I am sure more of virtual physical ailment that has the potential of being rooted in not letting it go the hatred you have been holding back, hence; you are still acting as a rescuer.
So let us do a thorough inventory of our ability of letting it go “spirit”, forgive but you do not forget. Much like you go through your closet at the beginning of a new season, weed out that which no longer fit, give them away or donate them. In a dramatic scenario, do away with the role of a perpetrator, be a forgiving victim and a standout rescuer.
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